Let it Glow – Getting Unstuck
As I was thinking about when I am stuck in the approval of man, I realized that I have let someone or something be bigger than God and I got a little frustrated with myself about it. It is pretty harsh to see that I am revering someone or something more than God.
However, lets remember how much culture influences us and allow the same measure of grace God gives us around this chain.
I think back to my 5 year old. He thinks that he is the bees knees because the only people in his little life he seeks approval from are dad and me. And it is pretty well known in our family that we think he is pretty awesome. We tell him so often.
On the other hand, I noticed our 8 year old is already starting down the path of caring what his friends at school think too. And of course our 16 year old has pushed past even caring at all what we think and it only interested in what her peer group thinks. Afterall, we are the very not cool parents who know nothing about nothing.
This seems to be an inevitable part of being a broken human and we are essentially treating God the same way as our 16 year old. Certainly, being the loving parent that He is, that He is just as broken hearted about us as we are about her.
So it is really nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, it is something to diligently watch out for. Our desire to belong, fit in, be loved are all things that drive us to God. They are good desires, that in our broken states get twisted. So rather than trying to make them go away, an impossible feat, we retrain our eyes to focus on where we want to belong, fit in, and be loved.
There are two places in the Bible that just stood out to me as amazing truths that will help us get unstuck from the approval of man, and “glow” with God’s light.
Let it Glow:
First- I did a word study on the word, ‘glory’ or ‘honor’ in our key verse John 5:41. The original Greek word is ‘Doxa,’ which means dignity, honor, praise and worship. I think the most astounding meaning of this word is dignity. I also think this is where the chain comes in. Seeking to please people by helping them and hear words of affirmation is not a bad thing in and of itself. Only when it flips to being your source of dignity, self worth, or value, does it become a sin and a chain that binds you. This is why Proverbs calls it a snare (Proverbs 29:25). Jesus knew that the only one qualified to give Him dignity and honor was God and He kept His eyes on His father’s will for Him alone.
Second – Jesus made it very clear with the story of the woman who got caught in adultery and was about to be stoned, that He is the only one who has the right to judge others. While we may build others up in our minds, all of us, compared to God are found lacking. And yet, when given that chance, God forgives instead. Read this amazing story of grace here: John 8:1-11
To glow with this truth, we need to remember that God is the only Holy one and therefore, the only on qualified to speak of your dignity or value. And guess what? He thinks your pretty darn awesome. His words exactly were “very good”. Not just good, not just good enough, but “very good”.
Father, you are the only one worthy of giving me value. Help me to set my eyes only on you for my dignity. Help me to see what you think of me. Make it clear that you love me and that is all the approval I need. In Jesus name, Amen.